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How Long is Forever

Lisa Ryan

Certified Coach

Keep Looking Upwards – Words of Wisdom


How long is forever


A lot of people tell me they have trouble with the idea of giving up drinking “forever”.


The way I look at it is, my choice to not drink alcohol, a known toxic and addictive substance, is not “giving up”- it’s more that I’m making a healthier choice.


Secondly, I have trouble deciding what I want for lunch tomorrow so if you can predict the future, more power to you! Can I future predict and tell you I’ll never drink again? No. I can tell you that it’s my intention to continue living my life alcohol free because I’m just so healthy and happy without that ole toxic substance. I have no interest in alcohol, it’s not on my radar, I don’t miss it.


Instead of future predicting, I have remained alcohol free for more than seven years (and intend to continue) because, after many years of trying to moderate, after countless Day 1s, I decided focus on today.


It’s not to say I don’t think of future events and what I will do or say in a certain situation (it’s my nature to be an over-thinker), but I plan it, I prep for it, and I let it go. I return my focus to today and just get on with living. This is how I decided to approach alcohol and put the cycle of Day 1s behind me. One day at a time, I make all my decisions without factoring in alcohol. Everything is based on how I want to show up as my best self today. What’s going to help me succeed to do that today?


Another tactic that helped was to turn my mindset to things I wanted more than alcohol. I wonder if this resonates with you.


I want good health more. I’ve been so sick I nearly died from my alcohol abuse. I’ve beaten Diabetes (it took a year to recover). my poor, over-worked heart became enlarged and nearly gave up working. Overall, I was just unwell all the time with migraines, constant panic attacks and depression. I’d had enough of that.


I want a more present, more fulfilling relationship with my husband and my loved ones. I want to remember conversations, every laugh, every smile.


I want to give my all at gym and get stronger with every workout. I’ve worked out hungover and I’ve worked out alcohol free. Guess which is preferable for getting the most out of your workout or your run; for getting the natural high, smashing personal bests, improving your physical and mental health.


When I’m working, writing or studying I want full clarity more than the fog of a hangover. I’m at my computer a lot. I get so much more done with a clear head. I also find myself up earlier, raring to go, to get things done. With more hours in my day, I am also achieving so much more, ticking those items off my “to do” list.


Once I had this change of focus, alcohol just wasn’t on my radar. I was too busy living a full and healthy life, doing things that brought me joy: exercising, hobbies, chatting with and being totally present with my friends… I wanted that life more. The reality was I didn’t even have a tenth of that life with alcohol in it.


Want more for yourself and for your life today.


“Forever” will take care of itself, by itself.




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